Porn is a controversial topic with just about any audience and on this podcast Dr David Ley and I discuss aspects that you likely haven’t considered before. Dr Ley is a practicing clinical psychologist and an internationally-recognized expert on issues related to sexuality, pornography and mental health. The title of Dr Ley’s new book is definitely an attention grabber – Ethical Porn For Dicks A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure. But it does get the point across and it has a broad range of topics that will definitely get a conversation started in just about any group.
Here are some of the topics we cover in our conversation
- How did the title come to be?
- Why did you decide to tackle the guilt and shame associated with porn viewer in the very beginning?
- Tell us about porn being the experience of another person sharing their sexuality with us.
- Explain your point about the problem within us – not in porn.
- I enjoyed the point about the tie between a high libido and a drive to succeed. And what do Catherine the Great, Genghis Khan, John F Kennedy, Martin Luther King Jr and Albert Einstein have in common?
- And that’s just the beginning…
What people are saying about Ethical Porn –
“There’s a lot of screaming, yelling, and smut-shaming out there about porn. David Ley’s reasonable, calm, informed writing about porn should be read by anyone interested in porn — and it should be required reading for anyone tempted to legislate about it.”—Dan Savage
“An important book for men of all ages, written by an expert in men’s (and couples’) sexualities.” —Debby Herbenick, PhD, president-elect of AASECT
“David Ley’s voice brings much-needed nuance to some of the most important conversations occurring about pornography today.”—pornhub
“David Ley takes a refreshingly honest look at societal consumption of erotic media, and the resulting porn panic. He cuts through the BS, and facilitates a frank discussion of who looks at porn, why they do it, and what happens when they do. You won’t find any pandering or political correctness here. This book is for those who want to confront the issue head on, to gain a real understanding about people, porn, and culture.”—Larry G. Walters, First Amendment Attorney, Free Speech Advocate
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About Ethical Porn For Dicks A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure
Our media is filled with confusing, polarizing messages about the dangers of porn, while at the same time sexually explicit images are pronounced in advertising and entertainment. Using a natural question/answer format for people feeling fear and shame about porn use, this accessible, funny, and well-informed book is the first one to offer men a nonjudgmental way to discover how to view and use pornography responsibly. (Ethical Porn on Amazon)
About Dr David Ley –
David J. Ley, Ph.D., is an internationally-recognized expert on issues related to sexuality, pornography and mental health. He has appeared on television with Anderson Cooper, Katie Couric, Dr. Phil and has been in publications ranging from the LA Times and the London Telegraph, to Playboy and HUSTLER magazines. Dr. Ley has published extensively in both the academic and “pop” realms of literature. His two books, The Myth of Sex Addiction (2012) and Insatiable Wives (2009) were revolutionary explorations of sexual issues which blended a powerful client-centered narrative with a rich understanding of psychology, biology, and sociology.
Dr. Ley has been treating sexuality issues throughout his career. He first began treating perpetrators and victims of sexual abuse, but expanded his approach to include the fostering and promotion of healthy sexuality, and awareness of the wide range of normative sexual behaviors. Insatiable Wives is his first book and won a Silver Medal in the Foreword Magazine Book of the Year contest for 2009. Dr. Ley wrote Insatiable Wives following two years of interviews with couples around the country. His controversial second book, The Myth of Sex Addiction was released in March 2012, challenging the concept of sexual addiction and exploring a different model of male sexuality. The Myth of Sex Addiction triggered a firestorm of debate, allowing people to finally challenge the media hype of this pseudo-disorder.
Dr. Ley is a practicing clinical psychologist and he directs an addiction recovery clinic in Albuquerque, NM.